The simple son, and the son who does not know how to ask, by process of elimination, are the two younger sons who are facing away from us. It is not even clear which one is which, but we can see that they are bareheaded and dressed in dark clothes, like the wicked son, and they are turned towards him rather than towards their parents. The parents are the only ones looking straight ahead at the viewer, as if to say: What happened to our idyllic Jewish family in this new land? Where is the respect for our traditions?
This artist seems to associate wickedness with assimilation into American society. Nearly 150 years later, we might draw this gathering differently. Pluralistic institutions like AJR hold that sometimes it’s appropriate for traditions to be challenged, and sometimes those who do that challenging get labeled as the “wicked child,” even though they regard themselves not as rebels seeking to dismantle the tradition or to flee from it, but as builders, seeking to create a Judaism that is more just, inclusive, and meaningful. Of course, such challenges are most effective when they are undertaken with respect and love.
May our Seders this year be meaningful opportunities for sharing and transmission of heritage across the generations, fulfilling the prophet Malachi’s prophecy that hearts of parents and children be turned to each other.
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Rabbi Robert Scheinberg, Ph.D., is the Interim Rabbi in Residence at the Academy for Jewish Religion, where he teaches courses in Jewish Liturgy, as well as the Rabbi of the United Synagogue of Hoboken. Rabbi Scheinberg was a member of the editorial committees for Mahzor Lev Shalem and Siddur Lev Shalem, the prayer books used in many Conservative congregations.